By: BRIANNA RODRIGUEZ
Staff Writer
Forgiveness is a part of everyone’s life making it a life-changing experience for either the best or worst. Every day we go through life like its nothing. Sometimes that’s not truly the case. Some of us get hurt in a very bad way and it makes us feel extremely upset and angry. Sometimes it could be very deep depending on the situation. Some of us find it hard to forgive someone who made us feel this way because we generally can’t get over it or seem to let go.
The pain we often feel when we’re in very bad times makes it harder for us to concentrate on the things we need to be focused on because we’re so worried about what will happen next. We spend hours and sometimes days or longer thinking about all the possibilities that can or will happen and it won’t be in a very good way. Our lives are so easily turned upside down that we don’t focus on the one thing that is the key to everything, forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the key and healer for everything in these terrible times we’re stuck in and can’t seem to get out of. There isn’t anything else in the world that’s more effective than forgiveness. Sometimes we have a lot of misunderstandings in the situations we face that we don’t spend our time talking to the person or people who caused this emotional distress, but instead hold grudges against them and hate them for a long time because of it.
I wouldn’t be here writing about forgiveness if I didn’t go through something extremely terrible and horrible for the past 2 plus years of my life. Most people don’t truly understand the meaning of forgiveness. People often mistake forgiveness as apologizing and forgetting about it and moving on like it never really mattered or happened. How is that truly forgiving someone?
Some of us find it extremely hard to forgive because of the harsh situations we were placed in. Instead, we find it easier to hold grudges against one another because we think that’s the best possible choice for us even isolating ourselves. Some of us can achieve forgiveness because we have that strong bravery put into our souls while some of us take a little longer because they’re still trying to heal on their own.
Here are the most important keys of forgiveness everyone should know in order to understand the true meaning or forgiveness and how we could use it in our everyday lives to better understand our world and our society as one.
- Know what forgiveness is and why it matters
- Become “forgivingly fit”
- Address your inner pain
- Develop a forgiving mind through empathy
- Find meaning in your suffering
- When forgiveness is hard, call upon other strengths
- Forgive yourself
- Develop a forgiving heart
Later on through we realize after hearing someone talk about forgiveness or seeing someone show it to other people or just writing about it and reading it we realize that it’s very foolish of us to sit there and punish ourselves in our present lives for something we know we didn’t do or someone who truly hurt us in the past.
If we want to start living our lives happy again we must be willing to let go of our past and start forgiving those who hurt us even if we don’t know how to. Forgiveness means more than an apology and forgetting everything like it never happened at the beginning, forgiveness means giving up our hurtful feelings and just letting the whole past go.