by VIOLET VERVER
How many suicides is it going to take for people to realize that words and actions hurt ? Suicide is the third leading cause of death among humans between the ages of 14-25 years old and the sixth leading cause of death among children between the ages of 5-13. Every 13 minutes someone decides to take their own life. Thousands of young people die every year, not by the hands of others, but instead, their own.
Many warning signs and symptoms of suicide feelings are very similar to the symptoms of depression. Parents should be more aware of their child’s thoughts and feelings. Always have their eyes open for change in eating and sleeping habits, withdrawal from friends, family, daily activities, violent or rebellious behavior, or running away, drug and alcohol abuse, unusual neglect of personal appearance, personality change, difficulty concentrating, or a decline in the quality of school work, fatigue, and complaints about emotions. As you can see there are a variety of warning signs that everyone should look out for in your loved ones. Most teens after making a suicide attempt say that they did it because they were trying to escape from a situation that seemed impossible to deal with or to get relief of bad thoughts or feelings. They say it’s not necessarily about wanting to die, it’s about wanting to escape whatever it is that is hurting them. And so, at that very moment dying seemed the one and only way to escape. Most who end their own lives or attempt to do it, do it because they are trying to escape feeling hurt, worthless, and or lost. Others may be worried about disappointing friends or family members. Some might be angry, ashamed, or guilty about something. And some may feel unwanted, unloved, victimized, or like they’re a burden to others. Whatever it may be is getting the best of them and causing them to want to end their life. In every single one of those cases, taking your own life does not solve anything. It only contributes to the problem even more. You ending your pain, causes the pain of others who love you. And once this is completed, there is no going back and it can’t be undone.
Some might say taking your own life is a selfish act because you aren’t thinking about how it would make others feel. Suicide is many things. It is tragic, heartbreaking, incomprehensible and frustrating. But one thing suicide is not is selfish. I’ve heard this argument countless times over the years, and the record needs to be set straight. People who agree that suicide is not a selfish act are not trying to say that suicide is ever okay or the right thing to do. Those who attempt to take their own life don’t do it to hurt anyone, their intentions are to take away the pain. Depression feels like you are trapped in a black box with no fresh air to breathe,no light,you’re all alone, and it feels like nobody can hear you call for help. As days pass the box gets smaller and smaller until you can’t take it anymore. If you thought that your only way out ws to kill yourself, what would you do? Spend a lifetime in a trapped dark place, barely breathing, and terrified of what comes next ? Or escape by any means necessary. A simple “Everything is going to be okay” doesn’t help someone who is stuck in a dark point in their life. They are convinced that there is no other way to stop the pain they are feeling. Suicide will never be understood by strangers or loved one. It’s harrowing to believe someone you love could ever think for a second that he or she is now worthy of living.
The crazy thing is that you never know how someone is really feeling. Anyone could be depressed and plan on killing him or herself. It could be anyone around you. Not only that but you never know what someone could have going on at home. On social media, around school, or even to their face, be careful when you say something to someone. There’s a lot of people who don’t take suicide as serious as it should be taken. If you know anyone is suffering from severe depression and or is planning on killing him or herself, let someone know right away. Get professional help. You can always help calm the person down. Sometimes a person who wants to end the pain just wants some strong comfort and to be not only told but shown that they are not alone.
If you or anyone you know is thinking about committing suicide please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text 741-741.